This clip explores the toxic pressures on men to hide their feelings and how we (still!!) give boys and men the sense that they must be completely invulnerable in order to be masculine. Men's therapy expert Terry Real says, “The essence of masculinity is the impossible task of being invulnerable.” This is a terrible setup for our brothers and sons, and a great reminder that sexism hurts everybody. It's also a key reason so many men shut down and withdraw with their partners, out of the fear that they'll be seen as weak or unattractive if they share their vulnerable feelings and needs with their loved ones.