March 27, 2020
So, maybe call a therapist instead?
December 02, 2018
I ran across this New Yorker
cartoon a while ago and I've been meaning to post it. I love it because a) it's really funny and b) it's really true! We laugh because we all recognize these kind of random anxieties, hurts, and resentments within ourselves. (I feel you, Two Years Ago I Said the Wrong Thing Lady!) It's normal to worry and to struggle—the important thing is that you never suffer alone. We all need a safe place to turn for comfort and guidance when we're besieged with these kinds of inner doubts and difficulties. So, to make this cartoon more helpful (but much less funny), if you're struggling with your own version of these kinds of challenges, don't bring your problems to work—bring them to therapy!
October 06, 2018
One of my therapist colleagues just shared this awesome cartoon with me. It really captures the hilarious (and relatable!) gap between our aspirations of Zen-like chill and our frazzled, real-world execution when it comes to emotion regulation. Most of us strive to be good people, and sometimes our big emotions can just sweep in and thwart our best intentions.
As humbling as that message is, it's also so normalizing of those big feelings and of anger specifically. Anger is a core, very necessary emotion that helps us protect ourselves from the dangers in our world. It provides important data about our needs and gives us the oomph we need to advocate for those needs.
To make our anger most effective for us, we often work in therapy on owning and expressing our angry feelings while working not to lash out from our anger, i.e., to talk about feeling angry without acting it out, shutting it down, or using an intimidating tone or critical language with others. You know, unless they're walking too slowly in front of you…
April 27, 2016
A couple therapy client of mine just shared this awesome video, sharing a place we so often get stuck as couples — "just listen to me, don't try to fix it!" — with a pretty hilarious twist.
It's Not About the Nail from Jason Headley on Vimeo.
July 28, 2017
One of my clients sent me this awesome New Yorker
cartoon awhile back. Not only is it hysterical, but it's a great way of encapsulating the messages so many of us got growing up — feelings are not welcome in our family.